10 big problems that need your attention

10 big problems that need your attention

Remember this, you can’t stop problems from

cropping up in a relationship no matter how perfect

the relationship is. What you can do instead, is

eliminate the frustration as soon as you notice

them.

           #1 Lack of communication. At the start of the 

relationship, conversations are exciting and fun.

Both of you spend a lot of time getting to know each

other. But as time goes by, lovers forget to ask the

same questions again.

We’re all changing all the time, in our preferences

and the way we look at life. Don’t assume you know

everything about each other or your romance will

start to stagnate, or one of you will start to confide

in some other person who seems more

understanding.

#2 Trust. Do you really trust your partner? There

are two kinds of trust in a relationship. Firstly, do

you trust your partner enough to feel comfortable

with them going out for dinner with someone else?

If you don’t, perhaps, you’re insecure or your

relationship is still too fragile.

And secondly, do you trust your partner’s

decisions? Do you think your partner is capable of

making important decisions for the both of you? If

you can’t trust your partner with life altering

decisions, it’s obvious that you don’t respect your

partner or their opinions. And that’s never a good

sign in a long term relationship.

#3 Jealousy and insecurity. Insecure couples are

forever locked in a cycle of jealously and anger.

When you feel jealous about the attention your

lover’s getting or their recent promotion, you’re not

helping them become a better individual. It’s like a

parent who’s angry with their child because the

child is having “too much fun”.

You need to learn to have faith in each other and in

the relationship. Instead of letting negativity build

inside the relationship, learn to enjoy each other’s

successes. After all, your partner is your better

half, and any accomplishments of theirs are your

accomplishments too, isn’t it? 

#4 Incompatibility in love. Love at first sight and

infatuation can last several months. And it does a

good job of masking any differences in a

relationship. As perfect as two people may be,

sometimes, they may just not be perfect for each

other.If you find yourself dating someone with whom you

have nothing in common, you need to decide on the

next step. Try to find common interests that both of

you like, or walk your own paths instead of living in

frustrations. 

#5 Loss of sex drive. This isn’t rocket science.

Over time, both of you are bound to lose the sexual

urge of the first few months or years of a

relationship. While both of you may have a hard time

keeping your hands off each other to begin with,

now sex may start to feel like a chore.

This is a very common problem in relationships,

and yet, it’s one of the easy ones to solve. Always

look for new ways to recreate the sexual high of the

first few times, and before you know it, both of you

may go at it all over again like frisky bunnies.

#6 Ka ching! Anyone in a relationship for long

enough will know just how important money or the

lack of it really is. If your friends earn a lot more

than you or your partner, it’ll end up frustrating both

of you. And on the other hand, if both of you earn a

lot more than your friends, there’ll be a lot of love

and happiness in your lives.

It’s a stupid fact of life. But our own happiness is

extremely dependent on the way others perceive

us. If you’re having difficulties in your relationship

because of money, perhaps it’s time to change your

friends and see the difference.

#7 Change in priorities. You may be in a

relationship, but that doesn’t change who you are.

And that’s where the problem starts. As individuals,

we evolve and change all the time. You’re not the

person you were last year, and you won’t be the

person you are now next year.

And just like you, your partner too is changing

constantly. And every now and then, you and your

partner may experience changes that will pull both

of you apart from each other. And soon enough,

both of you may have nothing in common. Spend

enough time with each other and try to evolve

together in a similar direction. Talk about your

beliefs and your interests with each other and it’ll

help both of you grow together along the same path.

#8 Time. Do both of you have enough time to spend

with each other? These days, time is a luxury thatf

most lovers can’t afford. When you start spending

too much time away from each other, it’s only a

matter of time before one of you starts asking the

big question, “Do I need my partner in my life

anymore?”

Don’t drift away so far that both of you don’t need to

be with each other anymore. Find ways to indulge in

exciting hobbies or spend evenings going out on

little coffee or ice cream dates. They make for great

conversations and it’ll bring both of you closer too.

#9 Space and individual growth. Now this is

contradictory to the earlier problem in relationships.

But it’s still something to watch out for. Too much of

a good thing can turn out to be bad too. When

you’re in a relationship, spending time with each

other is very important. But at the same time,

spending time away from each other is crucial too.

By spending too much time together, you’d

subconsciously feel isolated from the rest of the

world. And when that happens, you’d crave for any

attention from other interesting people just to feel

better about yourself and your ability to

communicate. And you know what could happen

when that happens, right?

#10 Are you still in love? This is the biggest

problem in a relationship, and one that’s hardest to

overcome. Falling in love is easy. Staying in love

isn’t. Love is a delicate balance between

dependency and passion. How much do you need

your partner? How much do you love and want your

partner? 

 When the sexual excitement and the enthusiasm

fade away, what do you have to hold both of you

together? A relationship should never be based on

sex alone. It needs compatibility and understanding,

and it definitely needs dependability. Staying in love

forever is not easy, but with a little effort, it can

give meaning to your life.

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