Nagging(effects on relationships)

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     INTRODUCTION: Nagging is a very crucial matter that happens in most relationship, some individual have it as a character while some come up with it due to certain conditions and circumstances around them, but  I will say if it has been a natural character or arises due to circumstances, nagging is never advisable as long as Relationship is concerned. Nagging can destroy a relationship faster than you can ever imagine, you might feel everything should be done exactly the way you want it but seriously other people’s opinion matters a lot. Now you might have already known what nagging is but one or two definitions will be given to add up to what you have already known. Nagging is constantly harassing someone to do something that they are averse to, we can also say nagging is that painful worry towards a person when you persistently tell him/her to do a thing he/she is not ready or doesn’t want to do. Nagging is continuous repetition of past happenings that upsets the person. By these definitions we now know what nagging is all about.

2)      WHO NAGS:  Researches have been carried out and conclusion have been carried out that everyone nags. Looking at our modern day society, women are likely be at the level of 55%, girls 25%, boys 15% and children 5%. You can be thinking how children nag, with the definition above you will understand children can worry an adult over something he/she needs especially when you make promises to the child.

 NOTE: In this article, we shall be concentrating more on the women than others because the         women have high level of nagging than others, and this article is centered on married couple

3)      WHY WOMEN NAG:

i)                    Women carry the burden of ensuring the home and family is in order  therefore will want everything to go their way

ii)                  Women are sensitive to early signs of problems in relationships so when they sense any coming they constantly tell you to do certain things you don’t want to.

iii)                When women ask for something and they don’t get response, they nag.

4)      EFFECTS  OF NAGGING:

I)                    Fights

II)                  Break-up

III)                Loss of love

IV)               Weak relationship

V)                 Cheating

VI)               Loss of show of concern

5)      POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS:

i)                     Practice Patience

ii)                  Be open minded

iii)                Speak with a tone that your partner understands better

iv)                Make your partner understand why he should do what you are asking

v)                  Respect him

vi)                Do not remind him of things or events he hates remembering

vii)              If he promise you a thing, remind him when best he will listen to you and not with a grumbling tone

viii)            Do not make things go your way by force, it makes him feel like a child and under the control of his mother

ix)                Do not continuously repeat a thing, it will upset him

x)                  Do not speak with him in anger or a heavy heart

CONCLUSION: Nagging is never advisable for practice in any relationship, so put in your best to avoid doing such, the more you nag about something the more those effects listed above will occur. Understanding is very important in any relationship, so understand your partner  and your relationship will go well.

        Franklin Nathaneal

              Writer