Relationship issues: Equal Love

                                                 How To Show Equal Love In The Family

Love all equally

In this article we are to deliberate on how love should be shown among members of a family (nuclear family). Loving, understanding your partner before marriage or before having children is not all that matters but very important. You are to ask certain questions from your partner   and know the do’s and don’ts of your partner. So many people believe the main aim of marriage is to reproduce, yes of course I agree with that, any other purpose are secondary that’s the initial of God’s plan to reproduce. Now you are married successfully you want to start having children, have you considered his/her own view of having children.

You can read questions to ask your partner concerning children by visiting this link Questions to as ask before marriage which is very important. Having known his/her perspective towards children, the next is to start having children and when the children begins to come the next is to see how the relationship will look like between you as her first love and towards the children. Love is not bias, love should be shown equally to all members be it first or last in the family because love  is a deep feeling of true affection towards a person, so if you say I love my first son than my second son or I love my wife more than my daughter then you are been bias.

A marriage is expected to have a flow of connection, joyful and peaceful exhibition among members, if you love your wife or husband very much let’s say at 95% before having children when the children start coming ensure the love you have for your wife does not reduce as a matter of fact try as much as possible to make it 100% for all. If any of two your child do something bad both of them should be treated equally (equal punishment or equal forgiveness), if you go out when coming back buy the same quantity and quality of things for them except each of them requested their choice. Never damn you wife or husband in the presence of the children, it reduces the respect that should have been accord to her as their mother.

   The members of your family should be your best friends, they are the ones that can make you smile during your tough times and they are there to celebrate you during your biggest celebrations. I have observed that it is difficult for parents to express love to their children, nit that they don’t love their children but they find it difficult demonstrating their love openly. In this article we shall be mentioning some few tips on how to show love in the family thus:

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1)      Instead of trying to leave each of your children the same concentrate on creating a bond with each child.

2)      Try not to compare one with another, it shows you prefer him/her to the other.

3)      Look at a child as important as the others. For example you prefer male children to female children, do not make the female child feel less worthy among her brothers and sisters.

4)      Try to make all feel equal that by acknowledging the vulnerable child among them, if there is any disability with a child do not make the child less important in the family rather treat the child with love just the same you would have done to the others.

5)      See the uniqueness in all of them in that way you show love equally

6)      Create time for them and tell them how important they are.

7)      Make every child feel irreplaceable

8)      Try not to condemn one for another

9)      Do not make your spouse feel jealous of abandoning her and focusing more on the children. She is your number one priority in the home without her the children wouldn’t have come so in your closet even among the children treat her like that special woman she is.

CONCLUSION:

Like earlier said love is not bias, it’s not an easy task to show love equally in the family as characters are not the same, nevertheless you won’t say because this child is stubborn and disobedient you stand to show less care to that child, instead of the child to leave that bad character he/she will become worse and bad repute to the family. Try as much as to understand every member of the family, follow these principles discussed above and live a happy family life.

                 Franklin Nathaneal

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