What you need to know
According to Wikipedia “intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being together. It is a familiar and very close effective connection with another as a result of a bond that is formed through knowledge and experience of the other” Having known what intimacy is all about let’s now bring it to our context:
INTIMACY IN RELATIONSHIP: Intimacy in relationship is that feeling you
share with someone you are close to and not just being close to such person,
there is a bond with you and that person example being intimate with your
brother, sister, husband, mother, father, or children e .t. c in this context
the intimacy in relationship is with your partner (wife and Husband). A relationship
that exist between two partners must be intimate and for this reason both
partners should share their problems, happiness, desires, ideas and feelings
with each other. A close relationship (intimacy) with your partner will bring
about a positive outcome which will make you enjoy your relationship, as your
partner will be able to expose him/herself to you that is being transparent.
Intimacy in relationship among partners should be a key factor. I can say to you that a relationship that has
no intimacy among the partner lacks love because love is intimacy. Intimacy has
to do with romance, physical or sexual relationship or emotional and personal
support between partners.
HOW TO CREATE STRONG INTIMACY:
a) Take your partner the way he/she is: if you
visualize someone the way you want he/she to be, you create a distance between
you and the person but the moment you drop such image, imagination or perceived
character you will be at a better level of intimacy with him/her.
b) Be at the learning side; if your partner
tells you certain things he/she don’t like about your character, make sure you
are at work on them instead of pointing fingers back at them, this will make
you more intimate with your partner.
c)
Visuals: When you go out and have pictures together
probably on a vacation, romantic times, events, try as much as possible to move
with few of those pictures that is when your partner is not with you , it creates a strong intimacy
between you and your partner.
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d)
Create or
make surprises: you can plan a surprise package or events for your partner to
express your love. Let them know that your love for them is still very strong;
this will create a strong intimacy.
e)
Create time
for each other: when you create time with your partner it gives your partner
the feeling of you being genuine and real about yourself and activities,
sharing experience and thoughts will create a strong intimacy.
f)
Lying in bed
and having bed time talk for at least twenty minutes will increase intimacy.
g)
Couple who
exercise or sweat together stays together.
h)
Always try
to communicate with each other.
i)
Try as much
as possible to give praises and call your partner pet names
j)
Try as much
as possible to show gratitude to one another no matter how small the act is.
EFFECTIVENESS OF INTIMACY IN
RELATIONSHIP:
a)
When there
is intimacy in relationship, it creates a bond among partners
b)
Intimacy
helps maintain a healthy body weight that is it relieves you of stress when
your partner assists in your chores or problems.
c)
When you are
intimate with your partner, you don’t have to express yourself when something
is wrong considering that they know your character they will detect it in your
mood.
d)
Intimacy
makes a partner to be loved, cared for, and feels belonged.
e)
Intimacy can
make you and your partner tolerate each other.
f)
Intimacy
increases respect between the two partners.
g)
Intimacy
makes you enjoy true authentic communication.
h) Intimacy makes you have fun spontaneously.
CAN INTIMACY BE TOO MUCH?
 |
| YES |
If your relationship is based on
intimacy or being intimate, then you love story is going to see an end. Too
much of intimacy is extremely bad in a relationship and this physical pleasure
can tamper with the strongest emotion called love. When a couple grows in this
kind of love that is understanding, getting to know each other’s flaws and good
things along with the same amount of intimacy, their relationship becomes much
more important and worthy. If a partner tries to be more intimate than the
other it will bring about the following:
a)
It can
destroy the communication between both of you.
b)
You will get
addicted to the person and when you are addicted to such person it feels your
life depends on it.
c)
When
intimacy is too much it will bring about decrease in commitment
d)
When
intimacy takes control of your relationship, you can lose each other.
e)
Too much of
intimacy gives your partner the opportunity to take control of you.
CONCLUSION: In actual
sense of it intimacy is very important in any relationship because when there
is intimacy, there is love, care, trust and so on the problem we will have with
being intimate is when it is done at a rate where it will be in convenient for
your partner. Everything should be done in moderation. A close relationship is
a relationship that will last longer and forever as long as they are
continually close. If you are not intimate with your partner in the actual
sense means you are not close with your partner which can lead to both of you
splitting (divorce), if you have not
been intimate with your partner start it now and enjoy the effectiveness and
benefits of being intimate. Wish you a successful relationship/married life.
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Franklin Nathaneal
Writer
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