EFFECTS OF PRIDE IN RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGES

PRIDE AS A DESTROYER OF RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGES

INTRODUCTION: Pride is something very common in today’s world; it is so common that even little children now practice such, even in the bible it is been said that “pride goeth before a fall” that is before a man falls there should a symptom of pride. In relationships and marriages today, pride has been a negative tool used among partners and this has caused so many broken relationships and marriages. PRIDE has no positive effects as pride is only good at destroying your relationship with people and marriages, so never consider it as a tool to build up relationship. Let’s understand the concept pride before discussing our main context. PRIDE is the

attitude/behavior a person puts on over others seeing him/her self as bigger and better than others. Pride can also be said to be the conscious behavior of somebody where he/she feels any other person is not up to his/her standard. Pride simply means placing a higher self esteem over others making them feel they are not up to your standard. WIKIPEDIA also gives us a clearer view of what pride is. One thing about pride is that it can reduce you to the bearest minimal when it’s consequence arises. Having discussed and understand a little of what pride is, lets now look at the effects of pride in relationships/marriages.

NOTE: PRIDE has no positive effects as pride is only good at destroying your relationship with people and marriages, so never consider it as a tool to build up relationships.

EFFECTS OF PRIDE IN RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGES

The effects of pride are the dangers of pride in any relationship/marriages, if you want to keep your relationship with people and make your marriage an enjoyable affair, read the effects below and never grow such attitude thus: Nothing will kill a relationship (even the best of relationships) more quickly than ego. Here are ways your ego can kill your relationship, and how to avoid having your ego ruin your relationship.

1)RESIST THE TEMPTATION TO DEFEND YOURSELF: Think about the number of times you’ve fought with a significant other, and whenever things get a little heated you start to defend yourself. All you hear is you being attacked, and you immediately go into “defending yourself” mode. Do you know that when you defend yourself in a fight, what’s really happening is your ego is defending itself? It also means that you’ve stopped listening to the other person.  If someone tells you that they don’t like the way you’ve been acting lately, why not hear them out instead of defending yourself? It will almost always create a MUCH better outcome. 

2) TO LOVE YOURSELF AND SOMEONE ELSE COMPLETELY YOU MUST SEPARATE THE EGO: In order to truly love someone, you must separate your ego from yourself. This is also true if you want to be able to totally love yourself. Now, I know that in a perfect world, we would never be ego-driven. This is not a perfect world of course, so let’s get real. We are all ego-driven to some extent or another, so let’s acknowledge it and embrace that we need to separate the ego to cultivate and maintain a truly amazing relationship with someone.  

3.YOUR EGO CAN RUIN ANY CONVERSATION: The truth is that no matter how much you prepare, plan and hope for a good conversation with your significant other, your ego is the one thing that will consistently ruin any conversation you’re about to have if you let it. Let’s say your significant other is frustrated with you in one way or another and really needs to express something about that to you. How do you respond? If you let your ego get involved and you defend yourself, it means that you’re not listening to them.

READ ALSO: HOW TO GO INTO RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE WITHOUT FEAR OF INTIMIDATION AND LOOKING DOWN ON YOURSELF

CONCLUSION:

In order to really listen to somebody, it’s uncomfortable.  Sometimes your significant other has things that are really bothering them about which they want to talk to you, but which you would rather not hear. To maintain a great relationship, however, you can’t let your ego keep you from really listening.

But think about these topics and ask yourself, are you guilty of this? So the next time you see your ego getting involved in your relationship, get rid of it! If you find yourself defending yourself or not allowing you to really listen, then you need to take a step back. Listen carefully to what’s really being said, and use it to create the most amazing relationship.

WAS THIS ARTICLE INSIGHTFUL? PLEASE USE THE COMMENT BOX FOR SUGGESTIONS/QUESTIONS. DO NOT FAIL TO SHARE WITH FRIENDS

Franklin Nathaneal

Writer