RELATIONSHIP TIP ON HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT FEAR OF INTIMIDATION OR LOOKING DOWN ON YOURSELF
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INTIMIDATION: Intimidation is the feeling of being a less important person and allow others to feel head over us thereby taking advantage of the possible ways we can use to express ourselves and feelings.
Intimidation can also be said to be the attitude of seeing yourself as not “up to standard” among certain caliber (meriamwebmaster) of people which can lead to victimization(dictionary). Intimidation can simply be put as other people taking advantage of you or having a feeling that you are less important to some certain place and people which will bring about others using this opportunity against you. Intimidation means unable to express yourself around certain people, time or place. To understand more on intimidation click on Wikipedia.
Intimidation can also be said to be the attitude of seeing yourself as not “up to standard” among certain caliber (meriamwebmaster) of people which can lead to victimization(dictionary). Intimidation can simply be put as other people taking advantage of you or having a feeling that you are less important to some certain place and people which will bring about others using this opportunity against you. Intimidation means unable to express yourself around certain people, time or place. To understand more on intimidation click on Wikipedia.
THE FEAR OF INTIMIDATION: The fear of intimidation simply mean believing in your heart/mind that you are not capable of handling certain things or performance of certain things among certain people when originally you can. The fear of intimidation is also having the mindset that you are not up to standard and that feeling that people will criticize you for it(inability to express yourself is the fear of intimidation). READ ALSO: .RELATIONSHIP ISSUES: RACE RACE SHOULDN'T BE AN ISSUE, READ HOW TO OVERCOME
WHY WE LOOK DOWN ON OURSELVES OR FEEL INTIMIDATED:
There are certain reasons why people look down on themselves and this can make you lose certain things at some particular point in time, but the reason whatsoever a person has to reduce his/her standard or look down on oneself is not valid enough, the ability to express yourself boldly is the best attribute any person can get. We look down on ourselves which leads to intimidation but this reason are no worthwhile and they include:
11) DRESSING/FASHION: due to the fact that we are not able to look magnificent as others do should not be a cause of intimidation, the little you have if taken care of and neatly put on can make you the topic of discussion positively.
22) EXPRESSION; if you feel you can’t express yourself in public due to some certain reasons like vocabulary, facing crowd, what you should do is to sort for ways to increase your method of speaking and express yourself in little gatherings (among friends, families, and social gatherings) in that way you can build yourself to face large crowds.
33) FINANCE: it is true in our society if you don’t have money those who do will intimidate you with it, but all depends on if you choose to be intimidated by it. If you know your abilities then you can express yourself at any given time without fear of lack of finance. The awkward feeling of you not having money and can’t perform is the beginning of intimidation.
44) POSITION HELD BY TOP PEOPLE: Some in top positions can use their power to influence or intimidate you because you are not up to their standard and they feel you shouldn’t be among them; nevertheless if you have a burning desire and know what you can do positively feel free to be yourself irrespective of your position.
55) MINDSET: your mindset will be your attitude and your attitude will be their attitude and ability, if you misunderstood the phrase above, it simply means if your mindset is the feeling of being subjected and rejected then you will be oppressed or intimidated. Come out of your shackles and show people what you got.
66) LANGUAGE BARRIERS: in Nigeria, there are certain people or tribe you possibly can’t live with if you are not from them or belong to them. This is because they cherish their tribe more than any stranger but language shouldn’t be a barrier, have you ever seen a friend more closer than a brother/sister, express yourself in the very best of it and don’t have that feeling that you are not their tribe so you won’t be accepted…..it’s intimidation.
77) BACKGROUND: “your back shouldn’t put you in the ground” your background shouldn’t create a fear of intimidation. It can be used against you by some certain people by despising you but the ability to rise inspite of the despising creates a level or standard for yourself.
88) LITERACY/ILLITERACY: so many people who are illiterate look down on themselves among the literate ones. You are not learned doesn’t make you are a “less worthy person” a carpenter/furniture maker who knows his/her job well and can perform can seat among presidents so it is who you say you want to be.
99) NATURE: the inability to change your nature is what you will remain to be and for the fact that you can’t change nature or rather cheat nature to your desired taste doesn’t mean you should feel intimidated or look down on yourself for the rest of your life. Be the best among your equals and un-equals and you will see people sorting after you. Never feel you have a bad nature and can’t express yourself, it is a sign of intimidation and if people chastise and despise you of this, all you need to do is think of ways that will make you stand out and people sort after you. Feel free anytime it’s a free world but do the right thing. READ ALSO: INTIMACY IN RELATIONSHIP
110) INABILITY: The inability to do a particular thing among people doesn’t make you sub-standard, learn how to do such thing if you have interest for it so you can come out of being despised but that doesn’t make you a failure and the fact that you can’t do such thing should not make you sober and have the feeling of not important. Let your spirit be motivated always no matter the insults.
NOTE: NEVER ALLOW A PERSON OR PEOPLE TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU. YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE AND THEY ARE WHO THEY ARE. BE YOUR BEST.
HOW TO GO INTO RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE WITHOUT FEAR OF INTIMIDATION.
Going into relationship with people for the first time can be a slight problem if you are not the social type or good at expressing yourself, or probably the shy type. Knowing these below mentioned traits can make you go into any relationship without fear of intimidation
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11) KNOW YOUR ABILITIES: know what you can do and what you are good at, this will enable your performance when an opportunity comes or when there is a call for it. In that way your relationship with people will increase.
22) KN OW YOUR WEAKNESS: Having known what you can do the ability to know what you cannot do matters a lot, it gives you the drive to try harder, become knowledgeable on such matter or issue. The fact that you can’t do a particular thing shouldn’t make you a lesser person and have fear of intimidation.
33) EXPRESSION: This matters a lot, the ability to express yourself publicly creates an impression on people that you are bold and know your abilities and will want to associate with you. Nobody wants to associate with a coward rather the brave and bold. In this way your relationship with people will increase.
44) BOASTFUL: There are differences between a bold person and a boastful person rather you will be chastised and ridiculed for it and this will make you feel intimidated and reduce your relationship with people.
55) PUT ON SMILING FACE: what I mean by smiling face is anytime people see you, you are always happy not a moody kind of attitude that scares people away from you
66) INTERACTION: This involves the flow of communication with people. Interaction involves conversing with people, when you converse with people you get used to people so the next time you want to interact with such person(s), you are already used to their standard and way of life so there will be no fear of intimidation. So learn to interact with people.
77) FACIAL/BODY EXPRESSION CAN TELL: There are times when you look at people, you have the feeling within you that they want to relate or converse with you or probably come close to you. There are certain facial expression or body expression they will portray to make you understand they want a relationship with you, so when you discover such you will have no fear of intimidation. Present yourself well.
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| STAND ON WHAT YOU KNOW AND LIVE ABOVE BEING INTIMIDATED |
88) BOLDNESS: A person who is bold have no fear of intimidation even when such person is to be intimidated by others, as long as he/she continues to be bold in few minutes time those who try to intimidate such you will be the one to reckon with you.
99) ATTITUDE/CHARACTER: If you have a good and positive character that people appreciate, I see no reason why you should have fear of intimidation, let your courtesy/character speak for you in relating with people.
110) BE PROUD OF YOURSELF: nobody can appreciate you better than the way you do, so be proud of yourself, when you fall, you rise, when you fail try to succeed. If you believe in yourself even when you fail in certain things and they try to intimidate you by laughing at you, you know within you that you are capable and can do well for yourself next time.
111) HAVING A NEGATIVE MINDSET/BE PREPARED: What I mean by this is that in trying to become friends to people you can be looked down on or your toes can be stepped on, when you have that mindset that means you are prepared for any ridicule whatsoever, so therefore it will enable you lift up your spirit (motivation) and come out of intimidation.
112) NEVER GIVE UP EASILY: having this attitude will enable you relate with people even when you are looked down on, you never feel disappointed or despised or ridiculed for it.
CONCLUSION: The above mentioned as we have rightly discuss will enable you come out of any form of intimidation or fear of it and make you stand among whoever you want to but first you must have a good attitude as discussed above. The spirit of victimization is the beginning of intimidation. The moment you start looking down on yourself is the moment you start giving people the chance/opportunity to take advantage of you. REFUSE TO BE INTIMIDATED.
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