HOW TO CHANGE YOUR PARTNER TO YOUR TASTE

   

   Marriage is a blessed union and experience to enjoy every time which has existed long enough before you and I were born, it is meant to be an enjoyable  experience filled with joy, blessings, love, trust, and every good thing you would like it to be. Most people never care to understand and study their partner before going into marriage. First of all, you have to bear it in mind that your partner in marriage is for life and nothing should come in between you except death and so for that reason you critically study your and cross examine your partner to you traits, if they correspond you are safe and if they don’t you are to do two things: either you quit such relationship or you change your partner to your taste but never try to adapt by pretending to be who you are not or what you cannot do in the long run. Changing your partner to your taste is not something you do over night, it takes principles to do that and these principles may include:

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A)     TIMING: in changing your partner, you have to consider the right time in doing so either by telling him when he is less busy or when he is in the right mood or probably the time you know he will listen to you. Don’t just assume he will listen but be very sure that’s the right time.

B)      PATIENCE: it is been said that “a patient dog eats the fattest bone” in order to change your partner you have to be very much patient with him/her. Trying to do things in a haste will never make any positive change rather it will bring suspicion where he/she begins to see you as a “pest” (pest in this context means something that disturbs someone or make someone uncomfortable) and when he sees you as one, there is bound to be problem.

C)      AFFECTION: In anything you are doing, do in love, not trying to make him/her feel you  are much more better and knowledgeable than him/her rather he thinks you are just trying to play smart and head over him.

D)     DO WHAT YOU SAY: In trying to change your partner you have to be an example, an example in the sense that you do what you are trying to make him do. Don’t try to tell him to do what you say and not what you do, it makes him/her feel like a child who is been ordered and scolded by the mother.

E)      REASONING: in trying to make him/her change a particular habit(s), you have to make him see reason that is the dangers involve in doing such or practicing such habits and also the advantage of and positive outcome of the habits you want him to portray.

F)      CONDEMNATION: in trying to change your partner, you should ensure you don’t condemn him/her. Telling him or her that the behavior or habit(s) he/she is exhibiting is the worst ever makes him or her feel inferior, in fact it can provoke him/her to anger which is not good for the marriage.

G)     IT’S A VICE VERSA THING: it is been said that “If you are in Rome behave like the Romans” you want him to be like you when he is the head of the home it’s quite difficult. Be the partner he wants you to be then you can make him be the partner you want him to be, it is a vice versa thing. Don’t expect him to be like you when you don’t want adapt or have a listening ear to his. The moment you feel he is on the commanding side, do try to play cool with him, be at his side then make him feel that be on this side is negative to both of you and I hope he will see reason with you.
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H)     ATTITUDES: Your attitude matters a lot. The way you behave is the same way he will treat you, you can’t expect him to be Mr. Good when you are like a lion in the home, you will only turn your home to the sour side and you can never change him to your taste in that manner, it’s a fact.

If you are stubborn or rude, don’t expect him to be obedient

If you are honest, he will be honest

If you are grateful, he will be grateful

If you are respectful, he will be respectful

If you are romantic, he will be romantic

If you show care definitely he will be caring.

I)        PRAYERFUL: it is common that most women don’t see this part as very important role in the home. I won’t say doing all these things without prayers it’s useless, no, but I see it as a very important aspect. Create a quiet time for your partner, put all issues in prayer and I assure you in no time he will change to the person you want him to be and make sure what you want him to be should be for the better of him, the home and you as well.

CONCLUSION: A marriage where there is no understanding is as good as a wresting ring, where both partners are always fighting, its certain due to the things you ought to have put in place before going into marriage. If you have read the links in this article you would see the things you need to know when choosing your partner or signs that he loves you, It serve as a guide towards marriage. You can click the red link have just added above.  Okay let’s assume you have made your mistakes, do not fear, put this above principles to work and you are sure to achieve success.

                              

                                   Franklin Nathaneal

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