
WHAT IS CHEATING: Cheating is the act of giving a share of what belongs to someone to another without the person’s notice. Cheating is also the act of sharing a particular thing and taking the larger part when it’s suppose to be equal. Cheating is also the act of sourcing out for an extra item, value or possession then adding it to yours without the notice of the other party. Cheating is an act of looking for other ways which are not normal or appropriate in order to satisfy your selfish desire. Having considered the above definitions about cheating lets now bring it to our context which is cheating in relationship. When we mean by cheating in relationship, it can be said that it is an act by a partner having an affair outside the relationship or marriage not necessarily a love affair. We can also say cheating in relationship or marriage is when a partner looks for other ways outside marriage to satisfy his/her sexual desire/urge and definitely without
the notice of his/her partner. Cheating is common in most marriages due to one factor or the other that was never put in place before going into relationship or some have it as a natural character for them not to be satisfied with one partner, they are always having that urge to source for ways to satisfy their sexual desire which is not helpful and dangerous to any relationship/marriage.
WHO CHEATS MORE IN
RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGES: There is actually no point out as to who cheats
more in relationships. Men and women cheats. Cheating is something you can
decide not to do, looking at its dangers towards the relationship and also
looking at it as ad dirty thing to do. How can you share what belongs to your
partner with another, it’s definitely improper, it is the thought that should
be going through your head. Like I wrote men cheat likewise women, but I put it
to you that the probability of men cheating is at higher level of about 65%
than women. Don’t quote me wrong, WOMEN CHEAT ALSO”. Men are prone to have this
sexual urge anytime they come close to anything on skirts wanting to go down
there (you know what I mean). Most men get married and still have secret love
affairs probably lodging in an hotel to carry out their dirty work while their
wives are at home trying to put the family in order, some even go as far as
bringing their lovers to the home when their wives are not at home, its wrong.
Since men use sex to ease themselves of stress “stress relieve medication”,
anytime their partner is not around them, they look for other ways to please
themselves. Most tomes men uses this medium to get themselves what they want
like having an affair with their secretary , female house help, or even female
employee or co worker, harlots at designated areas are also temptation to men.
Women have that dignity to keep themselves intact while men don’t see any
dignity to keep themselves rather any opportunity that comes their would be
grabbed faster than the air they breathe. Now look at this, when a man sleeps
with or have sex 2-3-5 girls, he is called a champion, the women’s choice, prince charming,
and a tactician but when a woman sleeps with 2-3-5 men, she is called an
harlot, a disgrace to womanhood and an asshole, so for this reason you can say when
a man cheats the highest he could get is scolding and nothing more but if a
woman cheats it becomes the topic of the family, she can be sent out of the
house(marital home). What am saying in essence is that due to the advantages a
man gets in the society they tend to cheat more than women, thus brings us to
another sub topic:
WHY DO PARTNERS CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIP: There are few reasons why partners cheat in relationship which may include:
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A)
If the love wasn’t there at first, there is
bound to be cheating. If a man marries a person he never loved or probably
there is love for another, he is bound to cheat likewise in women.
B)
Men cheat if their partner is not up to her ”A”
game that is sex is something we want to enjoy anytime we are into it, so we
want to enjoy every bite of it which will definitely make us want to come back
for more, but when a woman is shallow in bed, our sex desire for such partner
begins to die off and we sort for other means
likewise women.
C)
If a man is quick in ejaculating or quick in
achieving orgasm: when a man do not last long during sex, the wife or partner
may tend to look for someone who will make her feel emotionally satisfied.
Women span of orgasm can stay up to 15-22 seconds while men experience it at
5-9 seconds, so when women are having sex, they want their men to be able to
make them emotionally satisfied.
D)
Availability: when a woman is not available as
at the time when a man is having that sexual urge, he may be bound to cheat if
he is the type that can’t control himself. A man can go as far as sleeping with
a girl young enough to be his daughter; he doesn’t care as long as he has been
able to satisfy himself emotionally likewise women.
E)
Sex denial: this is the area women are good at,
they hold sex from their husband giving excuses that are not relevant. A man
goes to his wife in the morning to have sex then she tells him it is too early,
he goes in the afternoon and she tells him she is not in the mood, and he goes
to her in the evening and she tells him she is having severe headache, the
following day, she gives excuse that she is observing a 3 day fasting and
prayer, my dear sister or aunt in no
time the man will start cheating on you and you have yourself to blame and you
can do nothing about it except you want to break the marriage.
F)
When there is no peace, unity, love,
understanding and care for one another, both partners are bound to cheat. For
instance when a man mal-treats his wife, he is indirectly pushing her into the
arms of another who shows that he is the caring type, in no time, they start
having an affair together and likewise to the woman when you are always a thorn
in the man’s flesh, he will stay late and from there he will get the arms of
another woman.
G)
Personal desire(material things): if a woman ask
a man for something or for a favor and the man keeps refusing or giving
excuses, she will definitely sort for other ways to meet her needs and thereby
the Mr. Helper will just come her way then she begins to cheat.
SIGNS THAT YOUR PARTNER IS
CHEATING: There are different signs to detect that your partner is
cheating on you, is just for you to know the signs that will be mentioned below
when starts occurring:
A)
He/she
spends less time with you
B)
He/she begins to hide things from you e.g phone
C)
He/she goes to un-usual places and give un
reasonable excuse for no seeking your permission
D)
He/she begins to lie even if it hasn’t been
occurring
E)
He/she begins to find you non-interesting
F)
He/she begins to bring out unnecessary arguments
in the home
G)
The respect for you begins to diminish
H)
He/she begins to get irritated or pissed off
over little things or the things you do that normally wouldn’t have.
I)
He/she finds marital issues as secondary or
probably irrelevant to talk about with you
J)
He/she can refuse to pick phone calls in your
presence most especially when it is form his/her lover.
CONCLUSION: Cheating has made so many marriages a sweet dish turn sour.
I see no reason why a man or woman will want to cheat on his/her partner rather
sit down as one I think of possible solutions to take care of such issues.
Individually in your closet, have the mindset that cheating on your partner is
naturally bad and look for ways to be of help in any way he/she is not
performing its duties by talking to him; your partner is your life friend that
you should be able to talk to anytime in that way you make your marriage a
blessed one and when you observe these signs do not be furious about it, rather
two heads put together will make a good outcome. Enjoy your marriage.
Franklin Nathaneal
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