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Question to ask your partner before marriage
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FAMILY BACKGROUND:
A)
Is it the type of family you would love to spend
the rest of your life with?
B)
Are there historical events in the family you
need to know about?
C)
Is there negative occurrence that runs in the family?
D)
Is there any un-for seen circumstances in the
family?
E)
Will I be honored in the family?
F)
Does the family see you as the right spouse or
just a fill up?
2)
HEALTH STATUS:
A)
Does he/she have any health challenge?
B)
Can he/she survive without some certain things
if I hold it back from him/her?
C)
Is your partner an addicted person?
D)
Does he/she smokes, clubs, or womanize?
E)
Is your partner clean (diseases)?
F)
Is your partner genotype corresponding with
yours for marriage?
G)
Is your partner the type that does monthly check
up or only when he/she have any health challenge
H)
Is your partner a drug addict?
3)
PURPOSE:
A)
Is your partner goal oriented?
B)
What are the plans for the future (home and
kids)?
C)
How intelligent is your partner in handling
situations or problems when they arise?
D)
Does he/she give up easily?
E)
Whether or not to have children, if yes, how
many and who will be there primary care giver?
F)
How will your spending and saving mesh be like?
4)
ENTERTAINMENT:
A)
Does your partner enjoy travelling?
B)
How often does he/she like to travel?
C)
What would be the perfect weekend evening to
him/her?
D)
How would your partner feel if you go out with
on a trip with your opposite sex?
E)
What kind of activities excites him the most?
F)
Does he feel comfortable having fun with you in
the public?
5)
EXTENDED FAMILY:
A)
How often would you like to visit your friends?
B)
How often would you like to visit my family?
C)
If your family members say they dislike me what
would be your reaction?
D)
How would you handle holiday family visit?
E)
If my family member comes to live with us for a
while, would he/she be comfortable with it?
F)
Can your extended family interfere in our fights?
6)
DEALING WITH CONFLICT:
A)
Would your partner be willing to go for marriage
counseling if there is any problem?
B)
Which side will you be if there’s a problem
between I and another?
C)
How do you handle disagreements?
D)
Would you ever consider divorce?
E)
Would you discuss issues as they arise or wait
till there is a problem?
F)
How can I be better in communicating with you?
G)
If there is a problem or we had a fight would
you want me to apologize before we settle?
7)
CHILDREN:
A)
Do you think it is okay to deal with a child
openly?
B)
What values do you want to install in them?
C)
How comfortable are you with children?
D)
Whether or not to have children, if yes, how
many?
E)
Do you prefer private to public school?
F)
Would you prefer someone to stay with the kids
at home or day care them?
6) How will household be maintained and who
will manage chores?
7) Have you find out if your partner is the
affectionate type?
8)
Will there be a freedom of worship?
9)
What can annoy him/her the most?
10)
If any of us is offered a fat career proposal
far from our place of living are we going to move?
11)
Are we going to have a joint account?
12)
If any of us wouldn’t want to work as regard to certain
circumstances would that be okay?
13)
To what extent are our family members in our
relationship?
14)
What are you like when you are mad?
15)
Do you understand love signals and languages?
16)
Do we have more than just love?
17)
How do we deal with break in trust?
18)
Can I entertain friends in the home?
CONCLUSION:
These are questions and many more you should
ask your partner before going into marriage. Critically examine the answers
that will be given to you and make sure you are comfortable with it. Don’t try
to ignore them just to please him/her because in doing so you might one day
surprise him/her with a challenge. The answers given will serve as a guideline
on how to leave a successful married life and NOTE; be patient while trying to
get this useful information, trying to enforce those questions on your spouse
may bring suspicion of you having a dirty character that you are trying to
cover up or keep secret. The answers you won’t be comfortable with, let it out
to his/her ears, make him/her see a reason have a response and draw conclusion.
Wish you a successful married life. If you have any question(s) you can email
us at thefranklinsblog@gmail.com.
Franklin Nathaneal
Writer
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