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COMMON MISTAKES AND POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS TO AVOID DIVORCE IN MARRIAGES

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INTRODUCTION: Divorce is a word most people are familiar with, or I will say it is a word that those who are in relationship and matured in age are familiar with. There are so many cases of divorce in the world, it has grown to the extent that marriage which is originally meant to last forever(till death do the partners path) only last for few years, months or even weeks. Divorce is all over the place because there are certain things which were not put in place before the
marriage like understanding your type of partner or chosen partner, having a reason for going into marriage which is not based on primarily on love, advice from friends and families to leave the marriage and so on. Divorce is now common to the extent that people no longer see it as an important issue to discuss, some people will say “if am not comfortable with the marriage I will quit” if you know you are likely to quit why going into the marriage or what is the essence probably selfish reasons I guess.

WHAT IS DIVORCE: Divorce is the process were people who are married (husband and wife) plan to quit the marriage thereby going separate ways. Divorce can also be said to be the separation of two people (husband and wife) who are legally married thereby making each partner to live a single life. In simple sentence, divorce is the separation of two people who are legally married. For further details on divorce visit WIKIPEDIA

POSSIBLE CAUSES TO DIVORCE: For legally married people to divorce there must be some certain issues that warrants or caused them to divorce and they include:

1) LOVE LOST: A man who is married to a woman is supposed to treat her with love and care and vice versa and for the fact that he/she no longer show the love in the home, there is bound to be problem which might lead to divorce if not handle wisely.

2) NAGGING: Nagging can be a very big problem in the home and as a matter of fact there is 90% of assurance that a marriage can lead to divorce if the situation is not handled appropriately with caution and this also involves your method of handling or viewing problems. Read also: NAGGING EFFECTS ON RELATIONSHIP

3) CHEATING: Cheating is another issue and a big issue in marriage. It is not advisable for partners to cheat on each other and the practice of cheating can lead to divorce. Read also: SIGNS YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING ON YOU

4) ATTITUDE: if your partner have a wrong attitude and he/she never cares if it hurts you or not, there’s a tendency you will look for an escape route which is divorce.

5) LAZINESS: a man or woman who is lazy can create a wrong impression towards his/her self. Your partner might not feel comfortable with you for been lazy (in fact nobody feels comfortable with lazy people) and if there is someone else who is always ready to be of help to your partner, there is his possibility that your partner will run into the arms of your competitor.

6) STYLE: There are some certain traits your partner would want you to have thereby trying to impact or embed such traits or characters in you, refusal to adapt to such traits can likely make your partner want to file a divorce.

7) INCOMPATIBLE: if you discover that after the several months or a given time period you are not compatible with your partner due to the fact that you have not been able to understand your partner very well or your partner changes in character, there is a tendency your marriage will lead to divorce if not taken care of.

8) SELF DENIAL: In marriage, you are no longer for yourself only but for yourself and that of your partner, you have to deny yourself certain things in order to please and appreciate your partner in that way your partner will know you truly care about him/her. If you base your relationship on yourself alone there is likely to be problems which might lead to divorce.

9) PRIDE: Pride is a destroyer and killer of relationship and marriages, pride can bring you down. When your ego is high you create an impression on your partner that he/she is not at your level and will not feel very comfortable with you and may decide to separate from you and choose someone with whom he/she can rely on.

10) SEX LIFE: If you have a sex life that your partner doesn’t feel exciting to have or enjoy, that can lead to divorce. Read also: SEX IN MARRIAGE

SIGNS YOUR MARRIAGE IS LEADING TO DIVORCE

When you see this signs you should know that there is a high chance of your marriage leading to divorce and they include:

1) QUARREL/FIGHTS: When there is always fight and quarrel in the home and most times it’s just little thing that could be over looked.

2) TIME: When both partners no longer create time to be with each other not that they have a busy schedule.

3) COMPLAINS/NAGGING: If any of the partners has this attitude in the home and cannot control it, it can upset your partner which can lead to divorce.

4) LESS REGARD: This is when your partner no longer see you as an important person I n the home or has less regard for you.

5) PRESENCE: This is when your presence is a disturbance in the home.

6) MEALS: if your partner no longer enjoys your meal no matter how special you try to make it be just as much as he does and constantly complains about it, then there is likely to be a divorce or cheating in the home.

7) CHEATING: It is obvious that a cheating partner is a selfish partner, an d if your partner discovers you are such and tried as much as possible to make you stop then there is a tendency your marriage will lead to divorce. READ ALSO: RELATIONSHIP TIP: SIGNS THAT YOUR PARTNER IS A CHEATER AND LOVES CHEATING

8) SEX DENIAL: Denying your partner of sex at some certain times especially when he/she needs it the most, you are only creating a way for divorce in the home.

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9) SEX LIFE: A buoyant and exciting sex life will keep your marriage but the otherwise will destroy your marriage, so if your partner is not comfortable with your sex life, there is a tendency he/she will quit the marriage. Read also: SIGNS TO KNOW THAT YOUR URGE AND PASSION FOR SEX (LIBIDO) IS TOO HIGH WHICH IS NOT GOOD FOR YOUR NORMAL LIFE

POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS TO AVOID DIVORCE:

1) Show continuous love to your partner

2) Be committed to your partner

3) When there is an issue bothering you, relate it to your partner instead of hoarding it inside of you.

4) You should have the spirit of forgiveness and forget about the wrong of your partner even before he/she ask for it. There are bound to be quarrels/fight but the way you handle it matters a lot.

5) Take responsibility in place of your partner when necessary and also help him/her when in tough situations, in doing that you have placed yourself in his herself and a sign of relieve.

6) If there is any problem or issue you are not comfortable with instead of nagging and complaining about it, you should call your partner, sit him/her and talk things over like adults should do, and look for answers/solutions to such problems.

7) Always be obedient and submissive. Trying to create an equal place as the head of the home with your husband can lead to divorce so try as much as possible to be submissive in order to avoid divorce.

8) Always take blames for your wrong words/actions rather than claiming to be right when actually you are wrong

9) Avoid condemning your partner when he/she makes mistake rather encourage him/her that positivity can be achieve on next trial.

10) Never listen to bad counsel from friends or family in doing this you will avoid evil counsel which can change your attitude and start behaving in a negative manner in the home.

11) Sort for ways tom make your marriage enjoyable rather than endurable

12) Having a positive attitude keeps your partner closer to you rather than keeping away from you.

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